Where is it ?......our Humanity

where is the lovewhere is the Love

I just hope that our Health Care organizations dont go low like Mexico, This Women needed medical help...waited for more than two hours...they refuse to give her help...well she had her baby on the grass....where in hell did money top any Human being health necessity.....this sadden my Soul...we need Real Caring Human Being in our Health Care Organizations ...... This is plain wrong period.

You’re The Captain Of Your Destiny — Don’t Let Go Of The Wheel

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You’re The Captain Of Your Destiny — Don’t Let Go Of The Wheel

by ajwebb

i was talking the other day to an acquaintance who had just taken his business under.  But that wasn’t the real problem.  In taking the business under, he had made some decisions that were borderline criminal and there was the possibility he would go to jail.
After explaining to me what had happened, which included an almost endless string of bad decisions, I asked him, “Did you know what you were doing was wrong?”
He replied that he did.
“Then why did you do it?” I asked.
“I had no choice,” he relied with resignation in his voice.  ”It was like I was swept along on this tidal wave and one bad decision led right into the next and it was like being on a freeway with no exit.  After awhile it was like I was outside my body wathcing someone else make all those bad decsions.”
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  How convenient is that?  ”It wasn’t me who made all those bad decisions, I was watching someone else do it.”  Sounds like a great way to preserve your self esteem.  There was no choice.  Therefore, I’m not accountable.  The devil made me do it.  The light was dim.  My foot slipped.  I never got a fair chance in shool.  My parents didn’t love me.  I’m the victim here.  I had no other choice.
That’s a load of crap.  Let me stand right here and declare from the rooftops, “YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE.”  If you didn’t hear me, let me say it again.  You always have a choice.  You are not the victim of circumstance.  You can stand up anytime and anywhere and make a decision.  You’re not “swept away” by what’s happening.  You are the captain of your own destiny — don’t let go of the tiller.  If you don’t navigate these treacherous waters, who’s going to?  This is your life.  You can’t abrogate that responsibility.  Not now.  Not ever.  You only lose control of your life when you choose to give up control.
This scenario is all to familiar in corporate America today.  We see it on the news all the time.  It’s never the fault of the CEO.  I watched Bill O’reilly crucify senator Barney Frank (chief congressional oversight man over the fanny mae and freddy mac debacle) because he wouldn’t stand up and say, “This happened under my watch.  Therefore I’m responsible.”  Instead all he could talk about was how it was the fault of the republicans, his parents, his third grade teacher, his old scoutmaster, the guy down the block, and anyone else he could dredge up.  None of it was his fault, even though he was the man with ultimate responsibility.  O’Reilly called him a coward for not taking responsibility for what happened.  I agree.
Anyone can lose a business.  Most of us have.  Anyone can make a poor decision.  We all have.  Anyone can do something they regret that hurt others.  Again, we all have.  But there is a right way and a wrong way to handle those things.  You are in control.  Stand up and take responsibility.  George admitted he chopped down the proverbial cherry tree.  I assume he got a whuppin.  Then he went on to be the first president of the USA.  What if he’d said, “Hey, it’s not my fault the tree got chopped down.  What kind of person would put a cherry tree there anyway?  I didn’t know what I was doing.  I had the axe in my hand and I was just swept away in a series of bad decsions.  It wasn’t me who did it.  It was a bad set of circumstances that’s to blame.
What a crock.  I respect people who take responsibility for what they do.  If you did something great, stand up and take a bow.  You’ve earned it.  If you did something stupid, stand up and take your medicine.  You’ve earned that too.  You can’t say that all the good things that happened were because of you, and all the bad were because of something beyond your control.  The knife cuts both ways.  If you want my respect, be a man.  Take responsibility.  Act with integrity and honor (we don’t use that word as much as we used to, but it’s a powerful word that conveys much.)  Anything less is unacceptable — to me, to you, and to everyone else.
The only thing you will take with you when you leave this life is your knowledge, your experience and your integrity (or lack thereof.)  The thing you leave here is your name and your reputation.  What will people say about you when you’re gone?  Will they remember you as a person of integrity, or will they remember you as the victim?  You life story is nothing more than the sum of the choices you’ve made.  From small to large each decision you make writes another chapter in the story of your life.  There will be no footnotes in this story — only the outcome of the decisions you made.  You are in charge.  You are the captain of your own destiny.  Don’t let go of the wheel and don’t turn it over to someone (anyone) else.

Speak out LOAD and say No to Domestic Violence

WHO: Third of women suffer domestic violence, biggest murder risk from partner

 In this Thursday, July 30, 2009 file photo, shoes representing female victims of violence are displayed by protesters from the Chilean Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence in Santiago. The sign at bottom reads: "Rosa Alvarado, 31, stabbed by ex-boyfriend, 16 April 2008."

• Article by: MARIA CHENG , AP Medical Writer
• Updated: June 20, 2013 - 9:44 AM

In this Thursday, July 30, 2009 file photo, shoes representing female victims of violence are displayed by protestants from the Chilean Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence in Santiago. The sign at bottom reads: "Rosa Alvarado, 31, stabbed by ex-boyfriend, 16 April 2008."

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 LONDON — About a third of women worldwide have been physically or sexually assaulted by a former or current partner, according to the first major review of violence against women.
In a series of papers released on Thursday by the World Health Organization and others, experts estimated nearly 40 percent of women killed worldwide were slain by an intimate partner and that being assaulted by a partner was the most common kind of violence experienced by women.






"Violence against women is a global health problem of epidemic proportions," WHO Director-General Dr. Margaret Chan said in a statement.
WHO defined physical violence as being slapped, pushed, punched, choked or being attacked with a weapon. Sexual violence was defined as being physically forced to have sex, having sex because you were afraid of what your partner might do and being compelled to do something sexual that was humiliating or degrading.
The report also examined rates of sexual violence against women by someone other than a partner and found about 7 percent of women worldwide had previously been a victim.
In conjunction with the report, WHO issued guidelines for authorities to spot problems earlier and said all health workers should be trained to recognize when women may be at risk and how to respond appropriately.
Globally, the WHO review found 30 percent of women are affected by domestic or sexual violence by a partner. The report was based largely on studies from 1983 to 2010. According to the United Nations, more than 600 million women live in countries where domestic violence is not considered a crime.
The rate of domestic violence against women was highest in Africa, the Middle East and Southeast Asia, where 37 percent of women experienced physical or sexual violence from a partner at some point in their lifetime. The rate was 30 percent in Latin and South America and 23 percent in North America. In Europe and Asia, it was 25 percent.
Some experts said screening for domestic violence should be added to all levels of health care, such as obstetric clinics.
"It's unlikely that someone would walk into an ER and disclose they've been assaulted," said Sheila Sprague of McMaster University in Canada, who has researched domestic violence in women at orthopedic clinics. She was not connected to the WHO report.
"Over time, if women are coming into a fracture clinic or a pre-natal clinic, they may tell you they are suffering abuse if you ask," she said.
For domestic violence figures, scientists analyzed information from 86 countries focusing on women over the age of 15. They also assessed studies from 56 countries on sexual violence by someone other than a partner, though they had no data from the Middle East. WHO experts then used modeling techniques to fill in the gaps and to come up with global estimates for the percentage of women who are victims of violence.
In a related paper published online in the journal Lancet, researchers found more than 38 percent of slain women are killed by a former or current partner, six times higher than the rate of men killed by their partners. Heidi Stoeckl, one of the authors at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, said the figures were likely to be an underestimate. She and colleagues found that globally, a woman's highest risk of murder was from a current or ex-partner.
Stoeckl said criminal justice authorities should intervene at an earlier stage.
"When a woman is killed by a partner, she has often already had contact with the police," she said.
Stoeckl said more protective measures should be in place for women from their partners, particularly when he or she has a history of violence and owns a gun.
"There are enough signs that we should be watching out for that," she said. "We certainly should know if someone is potentially lethal and be able to do something about it."

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Never give up

never

Never stop fighting

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Never lose hope

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Stand your ground

even if it hurts

Pray until something happens

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Never ever give up.

Dee

Single and lonely? read on

Good day ladies, today I want to talk a little about loneliness, I know there is a lot of Women's out there that are Lonely, and struggle every day with this feeling. 

We are in a Society that put a lot of Stress on people that are single, We have this misconception of the need to be in a relationship, to get married, to have children at certain age, and that we suppose to put up with abuse, in some cases, we was broth up that way.

 When we have a desperate need to be with someone for the wrong reason, it can back-fire on us has abuse, specially if Love is not part of it, and in some cases our self-esteem in so low that we have this strong            unhealthy desire to be with someone so we can feel better about our-self, or to calm a deep void of loneliness.

We most always remember that a relationship most be between to people that love and respect each other boundaries, and if you are in a relationship because of sex, financial help, or because he is your baby Daddy, any of the above that don't have nothing to do with love and commitment can put you in a bind that later down the road will cost you lost of pain.

I know most of you are saying, " So what should I suppose to do? be alone." Well not necessarily, we need to understand first, that been single is not a crime, much less loneliness, and that we most primarily be happy with our own self, take the time to enjoy life, for example; when we occupy our-self learning and discovering new things, like going back to school, volunteer, join a poetry club, be part of a women's support group, make new friends, travel, or even taking cooking classes, make us feel better about our self, we also grow emotionally mentally and spiritually.

Independent is been strong, learning and growing, we can do anything and achieve anything if we want, and yes, good things come with hard work, so celebrate being single, embrace yourself, look around, relax, breath deeply, close your eyes and imagine yourself free from stereotypes, happy, stronger and Independent.

blessings

Dee

  

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Deikel